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Online Dating in Your 40’s Is The Equivalent of Running Head First Into a Brick Wall

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My boyfriend and I both tried online dating. This was prior to meeting one another through, well, online dating. Apparently he stuck around because he thought it was refreshing that I wasn’t fake. There was no pretense. Just me in my, sometimes overwhelming and slightly obnoxious, glory. Greg and I have been dating for around five months or so. I can’t give you an exact time frame. Something that Greg is always (teasingly) giving me flak for.

Online dating in your 40s is the equivalent of running head first into a brick wall. It leaves you dizzy and confused, wondering just what the F happened. Everyone has baggage. Some people though, they have something inherently wrong with them.

The other day I asked Greg what he liked about me. You know’ what really made me special to him. I often give Greg flak for being absent from social media. Plus, poor guy, Greg has like one friend here, having moved from Atlanta. So I wanted to be sure he wasn’t hanging around because he was lonely or some silly nonsense.

As Greg has only been living in Virginia since December, it’s completely plausible that he’s with me through my indecisiveness and hormones for purely selfish reasons. Although, he did let me slather him in sunless tanner, take photos and then write a tell all.

Tell me why you love me.

“So. Why is it EXACTLY that you’re with me?” I asked the other day.

His first response? “Well,” he said, “you have a dog.”

Okay. I get that. My dog is pretty awesome. (He’s a dachshund after all.) So I guess I can let that slide. I mean, quite honestly, I would NEVER date a guy who owned a cat. Not that I hate cats. I just think dudes that have cats are a little off. Allergies aside, there’s just something weird about them that doesn’t mesh well with my personality. So when I was swiping left during this whole online dating debacle, then left again, then left again… (Le sigh.) Anyone who owned cats was an automatic no. Of course, mostly everyone else was too.

“So what else? You can’t JUST be with me for my dog.”

(My dog on the other hand thinks he’s people, so he’s finding the whole first answer thing totally plausible. However, here I am thinking that his next answer better be something about me specifically or I’m walking right out that door.)

“I really like that you’re outgoing. It helps me out because I’m shy and don’t know what to talk about in a lot of situations.”

Whoa. Hold up. Let’s stop right there before you dig this hole any deeper. These answers weren’t exactly what I was going for. For someone who doesn’t forget birthdays or holidays, is generally romantic and occasionally passionate, I was expecting a much different answer. But hey. He likes Star Wars and he can cook. Which, according to my friends, are apparently two very desirable traits to have in a boyfriend. (Or anyone for that matter.)

So, just how did I get here? Well, that requires a little back story.

Into the (not so) way back.

My BFF Bambi (who is not a stripper but an educational director at the zoo – and yes, that is her real name) had been on OK Cupid after she and her second husband split. He was a nightmare, unfortunately. Both a drug addict and emotionally abusive, this guy actually treated Bambi worse after she developed breast cancer. Luckily the judge had enough sense to see this and ordered him removed from the home.

Prior to that, however, she had been staying with a friend for her own safety. All while she continued to pay the mortgage and all of the utilities on her house while her ex-husband lived in her home, rent free. Within that time frame that she stayed elsewhere, he not only stole from her, he also quit his job. He trashed her house and even went so far as to hook up with a fellow addict. A girl with an active felony arrest warrant for both for heroin and gun charges.

When Bambi’s ex, who quickly exhausted his own friend’s patience, finally moved back to Wisconsin to stay with his parents, it was one of her best days ever. Unfortunately, as luck would have it, her rebound was a two-faced liar and a possessive control freak. Which proves just how easy it is for any of us to fall back into that trap of emotional abuse. (Much like I did, myself.)

However, like me, Bambi is a fighter. She’s a scorpio and I’m a gemini. Together we’re tough as nails. But most of all, we are survivors.

Online dating in your 40’s is its own special version of hell.

As Bambi had been married for the past ten years, she was not in the know when it came to “modern day” online dating. So she asked me for suggestions. I gave her a few of my usual go to online dating sites and she signed up.

Then my own marriage, of just six short months, fell apart.

Bambi had been on a few dates prior to me moving in with her over Christmas weekend. My husband of six months and I split just a few week prior to that. I started therapy around the same time. So, as is the way of women, Bambi and I, both freshly single, found ourselves sharing too much wine one evening while simultaneously talking and laughing, discussing her dates and other general gossip that two best friends share.

This inevitably led to a discussion of online dating sites. Which were the best, which were the worst, and which ones had at least 3-5 people we knew. Bambi was particularly a fan of OK Cupid because of their detailed and EXHAUSTING list of personality and lifestyle questions. So, while in the midst being half drunk (okay we where schmammered) on wine, I signed up and we started answering question after question on my profile, together, laughing all the while.

While Bambi eventually met her now current boyfriend, it took me a while to catch up with her. Likewise, her online dating experience was not like my online dating experience. Because mine was a complete and total nightmare.

Let me tell you a little something about dating in your 40’s. Online dating in your 40s is the equivalent of deliberating running head first into a brick wall. It leaves you dizzy and confused, wondering just what the F happened. Everyone has baggage. However some people out there, well, they have something inherently wrong with them.

Don’t get me wrong. I am, or was, just as F’d up as the next person. I have my own baggage from some pretty messed up relationships that left me with me with my own set of PTSD symptoms. I mean my first husband contributed to me developing agoraphobia. He used to sneak into the bathroom while I was showering and scare the crap out of me – over and over – and even if I locked the door. So going into this whole online dating thing was like pulling out a bag of tricks and seeing which “me” was going to come out as a result.

Anxiety is a bitch. Online dating with anxiety is a bigger bitch. So I drank too much on first dates. And third dates. Basically, I relived the same cycle of madness from previous failed relationships until I found a holistic therapist that actually helped me. It wasn’t until Greg that I really started to pull my shit together. Everything before Greg, however, was a total mess. So I documented the hell out of my most interesting online dates in what I call “The Dating Files.”

Online dating in your 40s is the equivalent of running head first into a brick wall. It leaves you dizzy and confused, wondering just what the F happened. True stories of terrible online dates. #dating #onlinedating #disasters

The (online) dating files.

While Bambi and I were both able to navigate our way into healthy, happy relationships, there is some unfortunate drama that preceded those accomplishments. Here are a few of the worst.

Entry #1:

Sometimes swiping left works. Other times weirdos message you and you have no control over it. There was one guy with one of the worst dating profiles I’d ever seen. He told me that I would be perfect if I only smoked. He was non-mobile and a drug user, so, for me at least, I think the whole “non-smoker” thing worked in my favor.

Entry #2:

Another guy that I messaged a few times seemed normal, Not to mention successful. Just before we met for the first time however, he asked if I had a problem dating married men. I blocked him immediately afterwards.

Entry #3:

The first guy I went on an actual date with, after joining an online dating site, was an alcoholic musician. He claimed to have Lyme disease. Although he did lack the deteriorating health symptoms of undiagnosed Lyme. My guess is he actually has fibro. Buy hey, who am I? That being said, I understood the self-medicating thing to deal with pain. Unfortunately, I really think this guy just had a death wish. Not only did he love to drink and drive – because when did he not drink? He also never buckled up.

He wrote me the most beautiful song for Christmas about a week after we met. Regrettably this guy was not only a musician, he was also a narcissist. As if the alcoholism wasn’t bad enough (he’d crush beers in the morning to avoid DT’s) he made me cry three times over a four week period. The kicker with this guy was, on his online dating profile, he described himself as the perfect Southern gentleman.

There was also the story (and he LOVED telling stories about himself to anyone who would listen) about him drinking beer on his drives from Virginia to Tennessee. He’d occasionally take his elementary school aged daughter on these trips. To save time, and avoid stopping for pee breaks, he’d also have his daughter hold a soda bottle for him so he could pee while was driving. Yeah. No words.

The only good thing that came out of the few weeks I hung out with this dude was that Bambi was able to get her water heater, dishwasher and garbage disposal fixed. (Side note: Musicians, no matter how F’d up, are harder to ditch. My second husband included.)

Entry #4:

This next guy was an even bigger doozy than the last one. It started out with him telling me that I should talk to him on the phone because, back in my day, there no texting. Somehow, and it was probably the dry sense of humor, we did date ever so briefly. He was an even worse alcoholic than the first guy, with an unhealthy co-dependency on his younger brother.

We’d meet up for brunch on the weekend. What this actually meant was he was going to be wasted by 11:30am and he’d forget about eating entirely. He also forgot to shower. Or just didn’t care. He kept airline flight bottles of vodka in his car to drink on breaks. He was also waiting on a court date for his second DUI. And he’d scream at me just to turn around and beg me not to leave. If he thought I was mad the phone calls and texts were incessant.

I finally had to block him in the end. Sadly this was after having to give him a shower because he wasn’t physically capable and then help him locate his car the next morning.

Entry #4:

And then other guys still were simply just annoying because they were so indecisive. You can have a great white collar job, kick ass hobbies and be attractive, but if it takes a week and a half for you to plan a dinner date, I have to take a pass.

Final thoughts (and online dating advice.)

Someone once told me (see entry #4) that his Dad gave him this advice. “The quickest way to get over someone is to get back under someone else.” This is terrible advice. It’s also likely one of the reasons online dating can be so disastrous. This guy’s dad was not only emotionally and physically abusive, he also cheated on his wife on a regular basis. So you can see how unhealthy relationships lead to more unhealthy relationships in a cycle that never ends.

If you’re dipping your toes into the online dating pool and it feels like a trip through wonderland – raise your standards. Change your behaviors. Also, from personal experience, if you’re really angry about your last relationship, you won’t find happiness until you’re able to let that anger go. It’s a hard lesson. As is learning to change the thoughts and patterns of behavior that landed you in that mess to begin with.

Quite honestly, I met Greg because I started choosing guys who “weren’t my type.” And I almost missed out. Because, for me, it didn’t start out with that instant connection – that spark – that I was used to. Instead it was slow and steady. There was no rush to live life to the fullest like you’re speeding on coke because you could die at any moment. I had to step back, relearn and then move forward.

Finally, my therapist recommended the book, Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life. If you find you’re also part of an unhealthy cycle, this book will help you see the other side of that so you can finally break free.

If you enjoyed this article, you may also be interested in my article titled, You Are Not a Failure.

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Best Back to School Supplies for College Students (Plus Tips on Making the Transition Into College Even Easier)

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My son is entering his senior year of college and applying for grad school this fall. So he’s not who you might think of when you’re shopping for back to school supplies.

Best Back to School Supplies for College Students (Plus Tips on Making the Transition Into College Even Easier) Must have college back to school supplies for your new college student plus tips on surviving college life and making the most of the experience from a both a male and female perspective from rising college seniors. #backtoschool #collegelife #collegetips

There are no teacher supply lists and his books are now all entirely digital. This kind of makes highlighters a thing of the past. However, that doesn’t mean he won’t need any school supplies. It simply means that shopping for a college student is different than shopping for school supplies for a third grader.

Target has a lot of great ideas for decorating college dorm rooms in addition to the standard back to school tools for college students. However Target also has one really amazing perk that really got my attention. And it’s absolutely perfect for students who are leaving home to go off to school.

College Dorm Room Decorating Ideas from Target, The Best Back to School Supplies for College Students (Plus Tips on Making the Transition Even Easier)

When you shop online at Target.com, students can pick up your purchases at a Target store near the college campus they’re moving into. So there’s a lot less to pack for their next big life adventure. This means more room in the car for things from home that your new college student can’t live without.

So what are those must have back to school supplies for college students? Following are a few of my favorite back to school supplies. Plus some great tips for easing your son or daughter’s transition into college life. I’ve even include tips from my own son (who stayed local) and his girlfriend (who left home for school) that, as rising college seniors, felt will help your son or daughter have the best college experience possible.

The Best Back to School Supplies for College Students. Plus some great tips for easing your son or daughter's transition into college life. I've even include tips from my own son (who stayed local) and his girlfriend (who left home for school) that, as rising college seniors, felt will help your son or daughter have the best college experience possible.

The Best Back to School Supplies for College Life from Target

Even with a busy academic schedule and the opportunity to make tons of new friends, college can still feel lonely and even somewhat isolating to students. Something as simply as a package of command picture strips can help ease the loneliness as it’s an opportunity to display photos of friends and family back home. Plus, it’s also a chance to share photos of moments with new friends they make along the way. Or for a more whimsical touch, give a set of fairy photo clips with LED string lights a try.

Best Back to School Supplies for College Students (Plus Tips on Making the Transition Even Easier)

Having a roommate for the first time in one’s life is always a new, and a somewhat challenging, experience – especially if your son or daughter is an only child. And let’s face it. Not every personality is well suited for another.

Wireless Apple® AirPods are a great way for kids to tune out the overstimulation that comes with starting a new school. And listening to music on the way to class can help ease anxiety so they’re relaxed when they enter each new class of the day. Not an Apple family? Sony also offers a great pair of True Wireless Noise Cancelling Earbuds that has equally rave reviews.

Your college student will appreciate the Bose® Noise-Masking Sleepbuds when leaving home for college. These completely wireless headphones will help your child get a better night's sleep amidst the chaos and noise of dorm life - especially if their roommate snores.

Alternately, if your son or daughter already owns a great pair of headphones, they’ll appreciate the Bose® Noise-Masking Sleepbuds. These completely wireless headphones will help your child get a better night’s sleep amidst the chaos and noise of dorm life – especially if their roommate snores.

Of course, a laptop is also a must for any college student. My son started college with a new MacBook Air and it’s kept up with needs over the past three years. However, if an Apple computer isn’t in budget, Target offers a lot of budget-friendly alternatives from Chrome, Windows, HP, Dell and Acer.

A Room Essentials™ Bathtub Caddy is a must for college dorm life. This convenient bathtub caddy not only allows for easy transport of all your college student's bath and shower supplies to a shared dorm bathroom, it's also and easy way to keep bathing supplies organized! Constructed to be partially see-through so there's no guessing what's inside, this caddy also has draining holes to help prevent water from collecting inside. 

A Room Essentials™ Bathtub Caddy is a must for college dorm life. This convenient bathtub caddy allows for easy transport of all your college student’s bath and shower supplies to a shared dorm bathroom. It’s also and easy way to keep bathing supplies organized! Constructed to be partially see-through so there’s no guessing what’s inside, this caddy also has draining holes to help prevent water from collecting inside.

You’ll also want to be sure your new college student is stocked with personal care items, clothing hangers, a desk lamp and a power strip.

A super functional backpack is also a must. While many college students won’t necessarily have physical books to tote around, there are plenty of other things to stash inside. Snacks, money and a water bottle are musts for anyone running around a college campus all day.

This SwissGear® 18.5" Scan Smart TSA Laptop and USB Power Plug Backpack is THE backpack to rival all other backpacks. It features a USB power read port, TSA ScanSmart Technology and a large main compartment with flip-up show storage with side access pockets. The ergonomically contoured, padded shoulder straps with built-in suspension make this backpack comfortable to carry, while the organizer compartment comes outfitted with a key fob as well as multiple divider pockets for pens, mobile phone, ID card and memory stick, and the add-a-bag strap to slip the backpack over most telescoping luggage handles.

This SwissGear® 18.5″ Scan Smart TSA Laptop and USB Power Plug Backpack is THE backpack to rival all other backpacks. It features a USB power ready port, TSA ScanSmart Technology and a large main compartment with flip-up show storage with side access pockets.

The ergonomically contoured, padded shoulder straps with built-in suspension make this backpack comfortable to carry, while the organizer compartment comes outfitted with a key fob as well as multiple divider pockets for pens, mobile phone, ID card and a memory stick. It also has an add-a-bag strap so it’s easy to slip the backpack over most telescoping luggage handles.

If you’re on a budget for back to school as many of us are, then you’ll appreciate both the quality and pricing of the products Target offers. Additionally, if you sign up for a Target REDcard (debit or credit,) you’ll also save 5% off your purchase when you use your card. Plus you’ll always get free shipping.

15 Tips for New College Students to Ease the Transition into College Life from both a male and a female perspective from rising college seniors. Plus the best back to school supplies for your new college student.

Tips for Easing Your Student’s Transition Into College Life

Now that you have your son or daughter stocked with the best back to school supplies for college, it’s time for the hard part. For them, it’s having the talk. For you, it’s learning to let go.

It’s super important to discuss what expectations you have for your child as far as academic performance as well as behavior while they’re away. Safety tips are also equally important. At the same, they’re learning to stretch their wings and start forging their own path for their lives. So here are fifteen amazing tips for new college students that you can share with them to ease their transition into college life.

Cody’s Back to School Tips for Entering College (From a Male Perspective)

1. Go to orientation and do all of the events. Everyone else will be as apprehensive as you. However this is one of the easiest ways you can make friendships that last a lifetime.

2. Buy a calendar. Read the syllabi. Put all important dates down in advance. This will let you know when you can have fun and when you need to work.

3. Make a daily schedule. Short work every day will be more effective than trying to do a lot of work all at one time.

4. Sleep. This cannot be stressed enough. If worse comes to worse, a fresh mind studying at the last minute will do better than a dead one that studied all night.

5. It will be harder than high school. It’s okay if you see a temporary drop in your usual grades. It’s happening to everyone else. Find out what you need to change to work around that.

6. Call home each week. The emotional support will be helpful.

7. Learn how to be independent. Figure out your schedule. Eat regularly and exercise if you can.

8. Do at least one extracurricular you enjoy, whether it’s a club or a sport. You’ll meet people and keep your sanity by doing something you enjoy.

9. Safety is crucial. Always be with someone you trust when you are out at events. Never leave a drink unattended. Also, don’t take a drink from someone else – even people you know. If you see someone that needs help, help them. Call campus police. You won’t be a party pooper, you’ll be saving a life.

10. Get to know your professors. It’ll help you now and when you need letters of reference. Don’t be afraid to ask your professors questions outside of class.

11. Write down your overarching goal. Write down all the things you need to do to achieve that goal. Then make sure you complete one of those sub goals every one to three months. This will help ground you to what you’re striving to achieve after college.

Paris’ Back to School Tips for Entering College (From a Female Perspective)

1. Everyone feels just as isolated as you. I never lived in a dorm. Rather I lived in the same apartment with roommates while I away from home over the course of four school years. So I can understand the isolation and difficulty that comes with trying to make friends when you’re in that type of situation. It’s easy to feel like you missed the train.

Students who are living in dorms for the first time will have already made friends the first week of classes. So it’s natural to feel like you are being annoying when trying to break into new friend groups. Honestly though, if you can find the right people, they will warmly welcome new friends into their circle. They will also value the things you bring to the table as part of that new friendship.

Your first year of college may be hard. Once you get into your major and find the right set of roommates however, making friends (even if you’re an introvert) will become SO much less daunting. You’ll find that you’re surrounded by like-minded people. You’ll also start to see recurring people each semester as your classes become more specialized.

2. Roommates can make or break your college experience. If you have the worst, most filthy and messy, disrespectful, loud roommates the first two years of college like I did, you’ll be able to relate. As a result of my first two years with roommates, I become a neat freak. I had to have all of the mugs facing in the same direction. I also had major trust issues when it was time for the next roommate to sign a lease with me.

The sight of a sink full of dirty dishes may eternally trigger you as a result of your experiences. However, if you keep pushing forward, you’ll realize that there is a light at the end of that gross, loud tunnel. And one day, even if its not in college, you will have a space you can call your own. Or you’ll finally share a home or apartment with somebody you know who shares your same methods and ideals.

3. Friends and relationships will come and go. People change a lot from who they were in high school. This can be hard to accept. You may feel like something is wrong with you when you leave home to go to college, and as a result, lose both your best friends and a significant other. Nothing is wrong with you. People just grow and change so much at this stage in our lives. So embrace it! See what and WHO the world brings to you and be thankful for the change that signifies.

4. Have whatever type of college experience you want. You don’t have to bend to peer pressure. Always keep in mind that there are people out there who are going to love you as you are and respect the boundaries and choices you make for yourself.

Peer pressure exists. It’s not everywhere like parents probably think however. If certain lifestyles aren’t for you, that’s great! Respect other people for their decisions as well, but also stand by yours. Standing by your own values and belief systems doesn’t make you lame. There are so many people that will ask once, you politely decline (and give your reasoning, or not) and they will ACTUALLY say, “That’s awesome! I respect that.” (This is from my own personal experience.) Those people are so important to have in your life. Try your hardest to find them, and don’t settle for less than what you are comfortable with or deserve.

Share Your Own Tips for New College Students!

Do you have any additional back to school tips for students entering college for the first time? If so, I’d love if you could share them in the comments. Alternately, I’d also love to hear about your memorable college experiences and how they helped to shape who you are today!

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A Miracle Cure for Migraines? How to Tackle Your Tough Migraine Pain & Start Living Again!

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No one ever WANTS to get a migraine. Regardless, 38 million people in the United States suffer from them. A startling 2-3 million people who suffer from migraine pain have them on a chronic basis. This begs the question, is there actually a safe, effective migraine treatment out there? And can it help with other types of pain we experience?

A Miracle Cure for Migraines? How to Tackle Your Tough Migraine Pain & Start Living Again! Learn how to safely and effectively tackle migraine pain with this migraine treatment that has zero side effects. It's also useful for other types of pain including pain from multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, arthritis and tension headaches.

In Search of a Migraine Treatment Free of Side Effects

Recently I was over at my neighbors house sharing (“testing”) some of my new creations with him. Inevitably we always ask how the other is doing. Sometimes this questions leads into the delight of being able to say we’re having a mostly pain free week. Mike was in a motorcycle accident years ago. He actually broke his neck in that accident. And as with most traumatic accidents, both some of the damage as well as the pain has followed him throughout this life.

However, like me, Mike didn’t want to yield to conventional medications. With the epidemic that has developed with the use of overprescribing pain killers, I don’t blame him. I refuse to use them as well; instead seeking natural supplements and therapies to find relief for my fibromyalgia.

I had previously discussed my trials with using CBD oil to tackle my fibromyalgia pain. Mike, on the other hand, had mentioned to me about a device that worked so well that even his doctors were impressed. They simply couldn’t wrap their heads around how he was up walking around, much less that he was capable of working. I’d dismissed his recommendation of this device at the time however. And until my most recent visit  with Mike, I’d forgotten about it entirely.

During my most recent conversation with Mike, I happened to mention how I was recovering from several weeks worth of chronic tension headaches. In turn, this conversation led back to Mike’s revelation of his “miracle” device.

When Mike was around 17, he started developing migraines. If you’ve ever experienced a migraine, then you know just how excruciating they can be. Not only are migraines painful, they also leave you extremely sensitive to light and noise. Many times, they also leave you unable to function normally.

Unlike non-migraine headaches, over-the-counter pain medications typically have little if any effect on a migraine. Mike’s migraines left him sitting quietly in the dark for hours before the pain would start to subside. Other times they’d drag on for days. This of course interrupted his daily life and activities. Later in life, after his motorcycle accident, Mike had another chronic pain issue added on top of his migraines.

The best natural migraine treatment! Lean how an electric acupuncture pen can work as a safe and effective migraine treatment for migraine relief. The electric acupuncture pen can also help to reduce, manage or dissipate other types of chronic pain. While a miracle cure, the electric acupuncture pen can offer positive impact on your life. Not only as an effective migraine treatment, but also for chronic pain from an injury, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, arthritis and tension headaches.

Effective Migraine Treatment from One Little Device

Refusing to settle for a life of daily pain, Mike decided to try alternative therapies. This led to his discovery of the electric acupuncture pen – his “miracle” migraine treatment. Mike told me that our local private hospital used a similar device to provide treatment to migraine sufferers. They charge $276 for the privilege of receiving this treatment. All from a device consumers can buy for less than $10.

The electric acupuncture pen works in a similar way to traditional acupuncture. However, instead of using needles inserted into certain acupressure points of the body, this pen uses electrical pulses. While not a miracle cure, this device does offer safe, effective pain relief without any negative side effects. An effective migraine treatment, the electric acupuncture pen also works on pain from other conditions such as multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, arthritis and tension headaches.

Whenever Mike would get a migraine, he would use his electric acupuncture pen as a migraine treatment. He would apply the pen to his head where the pain was located. And, as he describes it, he could feel his migraine pain “pulling away” from his body. Within 2-3 minutes, Mike’s migraine would be completely gone.  After consistent use of this acupuncture technique, Mike stopped having migraines completely. In fact, after being plagued by migraines for well over twenty years, Mike’s been migraine free for the past five years.  

Mike let me try out his electric acupuncture pen while I was over for a visit. Having tried acupuncture for my fibromyalgia previously, I was aware of the benefits of traditional acupuncture. So I was delighted to give it a try. Mike uses the acupuncture pen on the 3 setting. However, I found that a bit too “jolting” for me. The first setting however was perfect. Therefore, if you do give this pen a try, I recommend starting at the lowest setting first.

I used the device on my hand where I’d been having a lot of pain lately. Sometimes my hands ache so badly I feel nauseous. It’s rare that I can write using a pen for any length of time. In fact, I bought a Kindle Paperwhite E-Reader at one point because my hands would cramp when I would try to hold a book open. Drawing? Well it’s completely out of the question these days. It’s also part of the reason I turned my creativity to soapmaking. Point being, the electric acupuncture pen actually worked at relieving the pain in my hands I’ve had since college.

While Mike no longer needs to use his acupuncture pen for migraine treatment, he continues to use his electric acupuncture pen for his back pain – a side effect of disc damage from when he broke his neck. He carries it with him to work in his pocket everyday. If he starts to experience any pain, or even like he might have a headache coming on, he’ll use the pen right away. The pain disappears and a headache never forms.

Have you ever been to an acupuncturist or tried an electric acupuncture pen? I’d love to hear your own personal experiences. So be sure to share them in the comments. If you’d like to try the electric acupuncture pen for yourself, you can buy it online via Amazon with free shipping.

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This article is not intended to provide diagnosis, treatment or medical advice and is provided for informational purposes only. Information on products mentioned are based on my own personal experience and have not been evaluated by the FDA. Please consult a physician prior to making any changes that may impact your health.

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Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical Beauty Butter for Natural Skin Care Recipes

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Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

Bacuri butter as a natural home remedy and anti-aging skin care ingredient for your holistic beauty and natural skin care recipes. Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

I’ve been in a creative slump as of late. I’ve been short on supplies. More than that, however, I’ve just been using a lot of the same ingredients over and over in different ways for so long. It kind of becomes uninspiring. If you’re a creator, you’ve likely also hit a similar wall at some point in your own process. So you get what I mean.

In fact, a creative slump was one of the main reasons I stopped selling my homemade soaps on Etsy and at my local farmer’s market. That constant demand for the same exact products over and over. I rarely had a chance to formulate any new homemade soap recipes. Instead I was selling my product downtown five days a week and making soap in the evenings. Then somewhere between all of that there was social media, etsy listings and product shipping. So my creativity extended about as far as swapping out colorants and fragrance oils for the same boring homemade soap recipe.

Recently however I was introduced to an entirely new line of exotic butters and carrier oils by way of Paris Fragrances. Paris Fragrances carries a fantastic line of natural butters and vegetable carrier oils from the Brazilian Amazon Forest. All of these natural ingredients are unrefined, cold pressed and sustainably sourced from the Amazon region of Brazil. They’re also perfect for use in natural skin care and homemade soap recipes!

Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

The Most Magical of All Beauty Butters

With the rise in both artisan and natural skin care products, many of us are now familiar with exotic ingredients from locations like Africa. Shea butter, a natural ingredient used in everything from body butters to soaps, is a major part of Africa’s economy. Known as African Gold, shea butter offers valuable economic opportunities for women and girls.

However, there are lesser known butters from a different region of the world that also have their own unique properties and benefits when used in skin and hair care recipes. Bacuri butter, in particular, comes from the Brazilian Amazon Forest. A somewhat unattractive butter, this natural butter is a dark brown that resembles both the color and consistency of fudge. It also offers some rather amazing skin care benefits. After just one use, bacuri butter was instantly promoted to the most magical of all beauty butters in my natural beauty and skin care arsenal.

Some of my favorite properties of bacuri butter include the fast absorbency rate and its highly emollient and moisturizing properties. I also love bacuri butter’s rich natural color and its anti-fungal and anti-bacterical properties. It’s versatility, both as a natural home remedy and as a quality ingredient in skin care products, also makes it a must for my own home apothecary.

Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

What Is Bacuri Butter?

Bacuri butter is extracted from the seeds of the fruit that grows on the Bacuri tree. These trees are found in Northern Brazil, within the state of Para, where the fruit is harvested in the wild. The dark brown solid butter is then extracted from the seeds for use using the cold-pressed processing method. Bacuri butter has a pleasant, moderately strong natural scent. This natural fragrance is often described as earthy or mossy. However, for me bacuri butter smells sweet and earthy with nutty undertones.

Bacuri butter has a melting point of 95°F which is similar to that of shea butter. The melt point of unrefined shea butter ranges between 89 to 100°F making bacuri butter a suitable substitution in your beauty and body butter recipes. Suited for all skin types, including oily and sensitive skin, bacuri butter leaves skin feeling velvety smooth upon application. It also has firming, moisturizing, astringent, soothing and cell renewal properties when used in your choice of a variety of homemade skin care formulations.

Benefits of Bacuri Butter for Health & Beauty

Bacuri butter offers a number of natural beauty benefits for skin and hair when used in natural beauty recipes. Commonly used in a number of skin and hair applications, bacuri butter is also prized as a natural home remedy for a number of ailments.

Bacuri butter as a natural home remedy.

Traditionally, bacuri butter has been used by the local natives of Brazil as an effective home remedy against both snake and spider bites. It’s also been shown to be an effective  home remedy for treating earaches. Additionally, bacuri butter is also viewed as what is considered a miraculous, indigenous remedy against rheumatism and arthritis. You can also use bacuri butter as a natural insect repellent to protect against insect bites.

When utilized in natural remedies for skin issues, bacuri butter reduces inflammation and redness. It’s also effective at reducing rashes, acne, hyper-pigmentation and scarring. Therefore bacuri butter makes a great addition to natural salves and creams that target acne, rosacea, eczema, scars and stretch marks. It’s also a recommended ingredient for natural pain relief products to help ease muscle pain.

Bacuri butter as a natural home remedy and anti-aging skin care ingredient for your holistic beauty and natural skin care recipes. Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

Bacuri butter for natural beauty & skin care recipes.

Bacuri butter has many wonderful properties that make it an especially useful ingredient in skin and hair care applications. Part of this is due to it’s high methionine content. Methionine is an essential amino acid that plays a critical role in the metabolism and health of many species. It’s also a natural source of sulphur – an element crucial for healthy skin, hair and nails.

Due to this amino acid and it’s high tripalmitin (fatty acid) content, bacuri butter is able to help stabilize skin’s elastin and collagen production as well as promote hair and nail growth. Therefore bacuri butter makes a both a beautiful and effective addition to scar treatments and stretch mark creams, anti-aging products, hair masks, cuticle balms, body butters and hair conditioners.

About My Bacuri Butter Body Balm

I’ve been working on several natural skin care and homemade soap recipes formulated with bacuri butter – all of which I’ll be sharing over the coming weeks. In the meantime I wanted to share the first of those recipes with you for my natural bacuri butter body balm. My bacuri butter body balm recipe is formulate with just over one third bacuri butter. It also contains passion fruit oil – an unrefined vegetable carrier oil also from the Brazilian Amazon region.

Like bacuri butter, passion fruit oil oil also has a high content of unsaturated fatty acids. It’s rich in linoleic acid, which aids in the restoration of the lipid layer of the skin. This yields exquisite moisturizing and emollient properties that increase the silkiness of the skin. Soap and skin products that are formulated with passion fruit oil offer a relaxing and anti-stress sensation.

Other ingredients in my bacuri butter body balm recipe consist of jojoba oil (or fractionated coconut oil) and lanolin. The lanolin is added to my body balm recipe for additional skin protection and to help lock in moisture. Additionally, my bacuri butter body balm recipe also contains cera bellina wax, a hydrophilic derivative of beeswax that has the ability to convert oils to gels, and candelilla wax. There is no added fragrance in my bacuri butter body balm. Instead, this simple recipe allows the natural scent of the bacuri butter to shine through.

Bacuri Butter Body Balm Recipe. Bacuri butter works wonders as a natural home remedy and anti-aging skin care ingredient for your holistic beauty and natural skin care recipes. Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe.

Bacuri Butter Body Balm Recipe

© Rebecca D. Dillon

Ingredients:

1.5 oz. bacuri butter
1 oz. jojoba oil (or fractionated coconut oil)
1 oz. passion fruit oil
.25 oz. cera bellina wax
.25 oz. pharmaceutical grade lanolin
.1 oz. candelilla wax

Instructions:

Weigh out the ingredients.

To make my natural bacuri butter body balm recipe, you’ll need to use a digital scale to first weigh out all of the ingredients. Combine the ingredients in a glass Pyrex measuring cup or double boiler.

Bacuri Butter Body Balm Recipe. Bacuri butter works wonders as a natural home remedy and anti-aging skin care ingredient for your holistic beauty and natural skin care recipes. Bacuri Butter: The Most Magical of Beauty Butters for Natural Skin Care Recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe.

Heat the ingredients.

Melt the ingredients for the bacuri butter body balm using the double boiler method. I recommend using a double boiler insert. Alternately you can also use a glass Pyrex measuring cup by resting the measuring cup on a canning lid in a pot of water.

Mix to combine.

Once all of the ingredients for your bacuri butter body balm have melted, remove the liquified body balm from heat. Then mix the ingredients thoroughly until well combine.

Pour into your containers.

Pour the bacuri butter body balm evenly into two 2.3 oz. glass jars (like these from SKS Bottle & Packaging.) Allow to cool then screw on the lids and label as desired for personal use or gifting.

Usage:

To use your natural bacuri butter body balm, simply massage onto skin as desired to moisturize and soothe skin.

Bacuri Butter Body Balm Recipe - a natural remedy for eczema, acne scars and other problematic skin conditions. Perfect for maturing, oily and even sensitive skin, bacuri butter is the most magical of beauty butters for your natural skin care recipes. Unravel the mystery behind bacuri butter and discover how this prized beauty butter from the Brazilian Amazon Forest can transform your natural beauty and skin care products. Plus learn how to make a natural bacuri butter body balm recipe to promote skin health and reduce the appearance of aging.

Other Ways to Use Bacuri Butter

Other than my bacuri butter body balm recipe, another great way to use bacuri butter is simply solo! When applied as is to skin, bacuri butter gives skin a light golden brown sheen. So it’s the perfect substitute for your body bronzer. Especially when your skin is craving a luxe moisturizer.

While bacuri butter can stain clothing, it absorbs quickly and easily. So not only does this butter not feel greasy after application, once absorbed, there’s no longer a risk of it staining clothing. And because a little dab will do you, bacuri butter is extremely cost effective when compared to beauty products that perform a similar beauty benefit. Additionally, bacuri butter also offers some SPF skin protection and works wonderfully as a natural after sun moisturizer.

In addition to direct skin application, bacuri butter is also well suited for hair care. It’s a great natural moisturizer for dark, curly or ethnic hair as it helps to protect hair against external agents.

You can buy pesticide free, fair trade and sustainable bacuri butter online from Paris Fragrances.

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Natural Headache Relief Remedies for Tension Headaches

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If you’ve ever had a headache so bad you couldn’t function, you aren’t alone. Approximately 45 million Americans suffer from headaches every year. That’s literally one in six people. More important to note, is that women suffer from headaches more than men. So just what is causing all these headaches? And are there natural headache relief remedies that actually work?

Best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. As someone who suffers from fibromyalgia, tension headaches are often a part of life - sometimes on a daily basis. So what are some of the best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches that actually work? Learn more on how to tackle your tough headache pain with this collection of home remedies along with the story behind how tension headaches form.

I get headaches at least once a month. It’s kind of par for the course. Living with fibromyalgia is not always easy, but it is manageable. And managing frequent headaches is just part of that process. Typically I get a visual migraine when my body is going through hormone changes due to my monthly cycle. However, I get tension headaches a lot more often. And they can be brutal.

As I’m writing this in fact, I’ve been in the midst of a chronic tension headache that’s going on it’s third week. While it’s eased up and actually responds to medication at this point, I’m still struggling to not only find relief but to make it disappear. Because let’s face it, pain affects your quality of life.

What are tension headaches?

The most common headaches that women get are tension headaches. Typically caused by stress and tension in the back and neck, these headaches result in a dull pain, pressure and tightness either in the back of the head or around the forehead. Tension headaches usually start gradually, worsening throughout the day. While they don’t interfere with vision and balance in the way that migraines do, they can last for long periods of time, for days and even weeks. So while a normal tension headache doesn’t generally disrupt daily activities, a chronic headache can, and often does interfere in other ways.

I find that chronic tension headaches are particularly tasking on my emotional well being. As they can cause disrupted sleep as well as intense pain, any type of chronic pain will wear on one’s constitution. This can lead to irritability, tiredness, trouble concentrating, trouble sleeping, muscle aches and mild sensitivity to light or noise in addition to the pain. Typically tension headaches will last anywhere from a half hour to several days. When this happens, these headaches are called episodic tension headaches. Episodic tension headaches last fifteen days or less. However, tension headaches that last beyond this time frame are referred to as chronic tension headaches.

Up to 80% of adults in the United States will have a tension headache at some point in their lives. While approximately 3% of the population will experience chronic daily tension headaches. As women, we are twice as likely to experience tension headaches than men.

I think, that as women, we are expected to handle more emotional weight than men. Combined with the stressors involved with raising a family, working and constant hormone changes throughout our lives, we, as women, often take on more than we can handle either by necessity or a sense of duty. In turn, this has consequences on both our emotional and physical well being. As such, tension headaches are one of the ways our bodies respond to overwhelming stress.

How to reduce your chance of developing a tension headache.

Because tension headaches are caused by stress, you can reduce your chances of developing a tension headache by avoiding the triggers that cause them. Typical triggers that cause the muscle tension that leads to tension headaches include anxiety, not getting enough rest, poor posture, anxiety, fatigue and hunger as well as low levels of iron. You can also develop tension headaches from overuse of certain medications.

As someone with fibromyalgia, muscle tension is often a daily part of my life in addition to chronic pain. Therefore those of us who have fibromyalgia often experience tension headaches on a regular, if not chronic, basis. Through my own personal experience, I’ve found that my chronic headaches often go hand-in-hand with fibro fog – a condition that is demonstrated by decreased energy levels, fatigue and difficulty thinking clearly.

Natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. As someone who suffers from fibromyalgia, tension headaches are often a part of life - sometimes on a daily basis. So what are some of the best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches that actually work? Learn more on how to tackle your tough headache pain with this collection of home remedies along with the story behind how tension headaches form.

Natural Headache Relief Remedies for Tension Headaches

For those of us who also experience migraines, you are likely aware that taking magnesium supplements can help to thwart migraines from presenting. However there is little evidence that magnesium has an effect on tension headaches. So what natural headache relief remedies do work for tension headaches?

The typical treatment for a tension headache is often over the counter medication. However, as mentioned earlier, frequent use of over the counter medication to treat tension headaches – such as Advil or Tylenol – can lead to rebound headaches. Additionally, over the counter pain medications have their own set of side effects. Overuse of ibuprofen can cause upset stomach while acetaminophen is terrible for your liver. So while your first instinct for treating your tension headache may be to grab a bottle of over the counter pain medication, your body will experience fewer side effects by instead turning to one of these natural headache relief remedies.

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Stress Management

Learning how to better manage stress in your life can help you avoid tension headaches in the future. Just as reducing the stress you’re under, can ease a tension headache that’s already in play. Try learning relaxation techniques, such as meditation, to calm your mind and ease muscle tension in your body. You should also try to get an adequate amount of sleep each night in addition to getting regular exercise and trying to avoid triggers wherever possible.

Natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. As someone who suffers from fibromyalgia, tension headaches are often a part of life - sometimes on a daily basis. So what are some of the best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches that actually work? Learn more on how to tackle your tough headache pain with this collection of home remedies along with the story behind how tension headaches form.

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Acupuncture

For many people, acupuncture is another option for a natural headache relief remedy. Acupuncture is beneficial at not only reducing and treating pain, it can also reduce stress. Back when I was first diagnosed with fibromyalgia, I explored acupuncture as a natural method to bring my pain levels under control. Not only did I find acupuncture beneficial for reducing my pain, it also helped me to relax and ease a large portion of the tension in my body. (You can read about my early experiences with acupuncture here.)

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Biofeedback

Biofeedback allows you to track your body’s activities on a screen. So you are able to learn how your body responds to certain stimuli. Through this, it’s believed that you can be taught how to gain control over things your body normally handles automatically. There is data that supports biofeedback as a credible solution to treating tension headaches. Specifically, when used in conjunction with relaxation, one study shows that tension headaches were reduced by 50%.

What biofeedback does in basically monitor tension in your neck, jaw, and temples. Through biofeedback you can then learn how to relax those areas. If biofeedback isn’t an option for you, simple breathing exercises that relax the body may also offer significant benefit.

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Aromatherapy

Aromatherapy is another natural headache relief alternative. There is some evidence that suggests applying peppermint essential oil to your forehead and temples is as effective as taking two extra strength Tylenol. While research still needs to be done to confirm this with absolute certainty, the cooling effect of applying peppermint oil along your hairline can help to relax the muscles in your face and neck.

Tension Headache Relief Massage Oil Recipe

To make a simple tension headache relief massage oil for your neck, back and shoulders, combine 1/4 cup sweet almond oil with 8 drops of lavender essential oil, 5 drops peppermint essential oil and 2 drops of chamomile essential oil. Combine the ingredients in a glass bottle and shake well prior to each use.

Tension Headache Relief Pillow

To make a tension headache relief pillow, cut two pieces of linen down to 10″ x 4″ pieces. Sew the two pieces together, leaving one end open, to fill with herbs. (Alternately, you can also use Aleene’s OK To Wash-It glue.) Fill your pillow with a mix of 1/2 part flax seeds, 1 part dried peppermint leaf, 1 part dried lavender buds and 1 part dried chamomile flowers. If desired, you can also add six drops each of lavender and peppermint essential oils. Then sew up the end of the pillow. Use the pillow either warm or cold as needed.

Natural Headache Relief Roller Bottle

You can also make a natural headache relief essential oil roller bottle blend. Combine 1 oz. of either magnesium oil or fractionated coconut oil with 10 drops of peppermint essential oil, 5 drops of frankincense essential oil, 10 drops of lavender essential oil and 10 drops of chamomile essential oil. Remove the roller ball and stop from a 1 oz. roller bottle. Add the essential oils to the roller bottle first. Then follow with either magnesium oil or fractionated coconut oil. Place the roller ball and stop back onto the bottle, then shake well to combine. Roll the oil onto your neck, shoulders and back as needed.

Tension Headache Aromatherapy Roller Bottle Blend

You can also apply a targeted essential oil blend to your temples, above your eyebrows and at the base of your neck. To make an aromatherapy roller bottle for your tension headaches, fill an empty 10 mL roller bottle with 10 drops peppermint essential oil, 6 drops lavender essential oil and 5 drops frankincense essential oil. Then fill the remainder of the bottle with fractionated coconut oil or another neutral scented carrier oil. Shake to mix then apply as needed at the onset of symptoms.

Natural Headache Relief Support: B-Complex Vitamins

While B-complex vitamins may not actually ease a tension headache, studies show that taking a vitamin B-complex can help to lower the stress levels that lead to the development of tension headaches.

Natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. As someone who suffers from fibromyalgia, tension headaches are often a part of life - sometimes on a daily basis. So what are some of the best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches that actually work? Learn more on how to tackle your tough headache pain with this collection of home remedies along with the story behind how tension headaches form.

Natural Headache Relief Support: Detox Bath

Detox baths not only help to rid the body of toxins, they can also help to ease tension. A simple way to create a natural detox bath is to add either one cup of baking soda or one cup of Epsom salt to warm, running bath water. You can add any of the essential oils mentioned previously for their aromatherapeutic benefits as desired.

I recommend trying peppermint essential oillavender essential oilfrankincense essential oil, lemongrass essential oil or sandalwood essential oil – or your favorite calming or cooling essential oil blend. You may also find my pain relief bath bombs recipe with peppermint essential oil especially soothing.

Alternately, Spark Naturals sells an LXR – Anxiety Essential Oil Blend that I highly recommend. This proprietary blend of Lavender, Spruce, Rosewood, Blue Chamomile, Frankincense, Sweet Marjoram, Roman Chamomile, Ylang Ylang, Sandalwood and Vanilla help to ease the suffering of anxiety, depression and emotional stress. This blend would work great both in the bath or in a roller bottle with a carrier oil. (Buy it here.)

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Pain Relief Salves

Another natural headache relief remedy for tension headaches is Tiger Balm, or another similar product. This herbal ointment is made with natural ingredients like peppermint and camphor essential oils. It can be used in the same way as a natural headache relief roller bottle with peppermint essential oil. Simply apply the product to your areas of pain such as the back of your head and neck or your forehead for a cooling sensation. Or try my cooling natural sore muscle salt scrub recipe.

You can also make your own tension headache salve with just two simple ingredients. Simply combine Spark Naturals Base Salve with their LXR – Anxiety Essential Oil Blend to desired strength to ease tension and stress.

Organic Cayenne Pain Salve from Finn Naturals. This organic cayenne salve is all natural and handmade by me. It is wonderful for soothing sore, tender muscles. It is also helpful for arthritis, headaches, back pain, muscle spasms, menstrual cramps, neuropathy and other types of chronic pain. It gently warms and stimulates circulation as you apply it.

Alternately, a cayenne sore muscle salve is another effective remedy. When used to massage tight areas in your back, shoulders and neck, a cayenne pain relief salve eases tension and relaxes the muscles that led to your tension headache in the first place.

You can find a great collection of natural home remedies here or try Finn Naturals All Natural Organic Cayenne Salve. Their organic cayenne pain salve is all natural and handmade. It is helpful for arthritis, headaches, back pain, muscle spasms, menstrual cramps, neuropathy and other types of chronic pain. Or, if like me you also suffer from fibromyalgia, you may find the Fibro Survival Deluxe Set or the Fibro Flare Pain Elixir from Botanical Delight especially suited to your specialized needs.

Cayenne Pain Relief Salve Recipes

You can also make your own natural, warming pain relief salves to ease tension headaches. Following are a few recipes you can try.

Natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. As someone who suffers from fibromyalgia, tension headaches are often a part of life - sometimes on a daily basis. So what are some of the best natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches that actually work? Learn more on how to tackle your tough headache pain with this collection of home remedies along with the story behind how tension headaches form.

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Hot or Cold Compresses

When I first got my tension headache, it was pretty brutal. By the third day it was unbearable. I was practically in tears and I wasn’t sleeping. Over the counter medication had absolutely no effect on it. So, like you, I googled for natural headache relief remedies for tension headaches. This was one of the first options that popped up for naturally treating tension headaches that didn’t require any special products.

I tried a cold compress on the lower back of my head first. It worked ok at relieving some of the pain. So I tried a warm compress next. Basically I just used a heating pad along the back of my head, neck and back. It really relieved my tension headache enough that I was able to feel like I could function again.

If you don’t have a heating pad, you can heat up a damp towel or cloth in the microwave for the same purpose. Just be sure it’s not too hot. You don’t want to accidentally burn your skin.

Natural Headache Relief Remedy: Moving & Stretching

Those of us who spend long hours working at a desk, or even window shopping for soapmaking supplies online (wink wink,) are especially prone to tension headaches. Even if you aren’t bending and hunching over your keyboard 24/7, your back, shoulders and neck can still develop a lot of tension from sitting in the same position all day.

Regardless of whether or not you have a desk job, you really should be up and exercising whenever possible. When I worked for another company, I used to do push ups in my office to help relieve the tension in my back and shoulders. Not only did it ease the muscle tension, it helped with the fibro as well. I also did a lot of stretching while sitting at my desk. During lunch breaks, I would lap the warehouse where our offices were located. It these things are prohibitive to you, simply moving your head in a circular motion does wonders for relieving the built up stress that leads to tension headaches.

Now that I work at home I try to get up and walk around more often. Some days – well on good days – I turn on my favorite playlist and shake my butt a bit. Kind of that, dance like no one is watching sort of thing. Not only does it lift my mood, but it releases tension as well. Ideally, you should be taking a quick break to stretch every 30 to 60 minutes. Dancing is optional, but highly recommended.

In the same realm of thought, yoga is also a wonderful way to relieve both tension and stress. Not only does it help to loosen your muscles, it also improves respiration, vitality and muscle strength. Simple basic yoga poses such as downward facing dog and the child’s pose are both easy ways to fend off a tension headache.

Natural Headache Relief Support: Put Down That Device!

Looking down at your smartphone for extended periods of time puts a LOT of pressure on your neck. In fact, it’s an extra 20-30 lbs. of pressure! Insane, right? And, I mean, do you really don’t need to spend 40 minutes playing Angry Birds Match just because you won unlimited lives. Likewise you’ll also probably want to hold off on giving yourself that new pedicure. Why not get one done professionally and enjoy some self care instead? That said, take breaks from your smartphone already! There’s an entire world out there just waiting for you to enjoy it!

When Natural Headache Relief Remedies Just Don’t Work

Sometimes natural headache relief remedies just don’t work. I tried a natural remedy because over the counter medication just wasn’t doing anything for my tension headache. While warm heat relieved the pain enough so it was bearable, it wasn’t working as a long term solution.

Having fibromyalgia makes my symptoms a little trickier to treat. (I once felt like I’d pulled a muscle for two weeks just from pulling my shirt off up and over my head!) I’m experiencing an insane amount of stress right now. I’m worried about making it as a self-employed writer. I have a lot of debt. I lost my health insurance. And my ex and I got the ball rolling on the whole divorce thing last week. (Only a few more weeks til it’s done.) And then there’s the chronic pain. So I made a really tough decision for myself. I went back on SSRI’s to treat my anxiety.

If you’ve followed my blog or even my social media channels for a long time, then you probably know that I have worked really hard to make lifestyle and nutrition changes to come off of all the prescription medications used to treat my fibromyalgia. The tramadol and the Lyrica were the first to go – and one of the best decisions of my life.

A while back I started taking an incredibly low dose of Celexa. My anxiety was high and I had a lot of tension. Muscle relaxers didn’t help with the tension and I ended up with TMJ. I’d moved out of my apartment into another town to escape some terrible upstairs neighbors who would scream at one another until three in the morning and abused their dog.

I was commuting a much longer distance back and forth to work (which especially sucks with fibro) and I was starting to have panic attacks while driving. The long stretch of road I had to commute down to get to my day job in Roanoke had multiple accidents a day. They actually put a sign up warning drivers to slow down. Over 400 people a year die on that road.

Once I was taking 20mg of Celexa for about two or three weeks, my jaw tension disappeared completely. I moved back to Roanoke. I impulsively got married. Six months later we split and I’ve been living with my best friend ever since. I started therapy. And then I weaned myself off of the SSRI completely. Since then I’ve been working on discontinuing my use of muscle relaxers entirely. I’ve tried a plethora of herbal supplements including skullcap and passionflower (which helps some) and CBD oil.

The CBD oil was by far the best substitute for the Flexeril’s – a muscle relaxer that helps with both muscle spasms and tension as well as some pain. As it’s not recommended you take flexeril for long periods of time, this was the last prescription medication I was holding onto. However, CBD is not at all an affordable option for me at the daily amount and dosage that I’d need to stop my medication. Which is a shame because it offers so many other health benefits. Plus it’s pretty miraculous at calming anxiety. (Coming from the girl who used to have agoraphobia.)

So, for me to have to admit to myself, that short term I needed to start taking the Celexa again – it was hard. I didn’t want to. At the same time however, I couldn’t function. So, despite my desire to be free of medications once and for all, I still have a little ways to go. I’m okay with that though because I know that one day I will get there.

While modern SSRI’s are not believed to be as effective at treating tension headaches as a tricyclic antidepressant, there is some evidence that, based on the individual’s situation, they can offer some relief. As much of my tension headache was coming from both stress and anxiety – I can be a chronic worrier – in addition to muscle tension, the Celexa has offered significant relief. It’s also within my budget.

A 30-day dose of just 20mg of (generic) citrolopram only costs $17. Whereas the amount and dosage of CBD I needed runs $140 per month at minimum, assuming I have no bad days. This is both frustrating and infuriating at the same time. That there are natural, healthier alternatives to modern pharmaceuticals out there that aren’t within the reach of so many who are in chronic pain. However that is another kettle of fish entirely.

While I am still having rebound headaches – they have not gone away entirely – I am feeling and functioning significantly better than I was before.

If you are experiencing chronic headaches, there could be an underlying medical condition. So please see a doctor if your headaches persist. I know my headaches are tension headaches. I’ve had CAT scans in the past, with and without contrast, when I was on my journey to have the fibro diagnosed. However, it’s always best not to gamble with your health and be proactive where you need to be.

If you’ve stuck with me through this entire article, I hope you are able to glean some benefit from the contents. I’d also love for you to share comments on your own personal experiences and successful natural headache relief remedies.

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